can i really trust you?

yesterday i read some disturbing news on facebook. 

one of my worship major friends from liberty is now seperated from his wife because he's been living a double life as a gay sex addict and is now getting help for it. 

i was shocked when i read this. he posted this big long confessional and then his wife also posted something similar. my heart is hurting for his wife and two young daughers who have been so deceived and hurt by this. i am hurting for him as i know he is going through a hard time right now. but i think most of all this has made me wonder about myself and how quick i am to trust people.

i automatically think well of people. both men and women. i don't have issues trusting men like many girls my age do. maybe its because i've never had any issues with trusting men growing up. i have a great dad and great brothers and have never had any real reason to distrust men. when i met this guy, i thought he was a nice guy. a great musician. loved the Lord, loved his family. i got to know him pretty well this past year because i was his accompanist and spent time rehearsing with him. i also hung out with him and a two other guys a couple times outside of class during the last couple weeks of school. they were both guys i knew - one much better than the other, but i completely trusted all 3 of them - i was comfortable with them and have believed everything they've ever told me about themselves...until now.

maybe i'm naiive. 
i don't want to be completely paranoid with people. i want to be able to trust my guy friends and feel comfortable around them. but where is the line between being smart and being paranoid?

i trusted this guy. i even called him at the end of school to ask if he would help me and another friend move our furniture out of our dorms and into storage because he had a minivan. yes i did wonder why he would go out in the evenings with 3 residential students 10 years his junior instead of going home to his wife and daughters...but i figured it wasn't any of my business. but now...i just don't know what to think anymore.

it makes me think about my other guy friends. are they all lying to me too? probably not. but what if they are? this guy definately wasn't one of my closest friends, but i wonder about those who are close to me. how much can i trust them that they won't hurt me - physically? emotinally? i wonder about another guy friend who had spent some time over at this guy's house practicing for their recital? what were they doing? were they really doing what they said they were doing? 

i'm not sure what i think about all this. it's opened my eyes and reminded me that any person may seem harmless. may seem like they have the same beliefs and standards that i do. but how do i know they're not lying?

i don't.

so what now? 
do i just trust them and always give them the benefit of the doubt? and if so, how much of myself can i invest in someone without running the risk of getting hurt? or is hurt just part of life and i should just get used to dealing with it? i'm very real and open when it comes to friendships because i want the relationship to be real and open...not fake. not a lie. but is being myself being to trusting?

not really sure what to think.